Children offer lots of behavior. Depending upon our culture and our personality, some of this behavior gets labeled ‘bad’ and some of it gets praised. But when we step out of our unconscious reaction to whatever the child just did that pushed our last button, it is possible to see that all s/he is doing is working through what they came here to learn. Life is the ultimate conscious classroom, if we choose to be awake.
From a place of higher awareness, even my bully girl can be observed dispassionately. I don’t know what spirit lesson she is working on, it’s not my place to look unless I am asked. But I do know that the parents she has, and the challenges she is experiencing, are simply her classroom of the soul–the real lessons she has come here to learn. Next to the lessons of the soul, reading, ‘riting and ‘rithmatic seem inconsequential.
And from this soul’s-eye view, with the child’s journey spread out before us as it runs through this lifetime and others, shame and punishment seem to be unnecessary, irrelevant, anachronistic. My bully girl (see The Heart of a Bully) is not a bad child. She’s just, like all of us, here to learn. Her spirit shines just as bright as mine and yours. I only hope that she can hear herself know that.